you know, you really inspire me with how open and honest you are (or seem haha). i often feel like i am open and honest, but i think i lie to myself, rationalizing reasons why i dont need to express things, illigetimizing myself and my emotions, and i bottle stuff up until i explode and destroy myself or my friendships... do you have any advice, can you relate at all? do you ever struggle to be expressive and what do you do to help? if not though, thanks for just inspiring me to see the truth <3
Awww, thank you! Yeah, I think I’m pretty good about being honest, both with myself and other people.
(Although as you saw, I do bottle things up occasionally.)
I think what really helps is that when I notice I feel at all off—sad, or stressed, or annoyed, or moody—I try to slow down and really figure out what’s bothering me. Sometimes I’m short-tempered because I ate a challenge food and below the surface that panic is niggling at me. Or maybe I just had an awful night’s sleep so I’m not as cheery as usual. But once you realize what’s at the root of your negative emotions you can acknowledge them and move on.
Also, you’re perfectly allowed to feel WHATEVER you want to. There isn’t any such thing as an “illegitimate” feeling. Okay, maybe if you got mad when someone complimented you, that wouldn’t be fair. But in 99% of cases I’m confident your reaction is warranted.
If you need to let things out, I’d suggest journaling (or my version, getting on Tumblr), taking a walk while listening to music and crying (a personal favorite ahaha), making angry pictures (ooh, another fave), punching your pillow (although that’s hard to keep up for more than a couple minutes), calling your mom (********), calling your friends, or taking a shower. Let yourself wallow, talk to people if they need talking to, and don’t feel bad for being a person and feeling stuff. Everyone does.
Good luck :*